Attraction refers to the facility to manifest qualities
such as interest, charm, fascination, amusement and generosity such that other
seeks your company. Both of women or men will change dramatically when in the
presence of the opposite sex. For instance, a man will automatically straighten
up his body, stand a little taller, and avoiding all those common slumping or
slouching postures. Max. A. Eggert in his book “Brilliant Body Language” has classified the rules of
attractiveness in generally.
v Primacy and recency effect
Primacy
is the first impression and recency deals with the last impression of the
opposite sex. The people sometimes very stick with their memory when they met
us for the first time, because they will judge everything that we wear,
everything that we have done and said. Thus, most of people always try to give
a good impression to be remembered. Here, Max suggests that begin somewhat
nervously but grow in confidence.
v Propinquity
Attraction
also can be trough by propinquity. The people who always meet each other
frequently should be more attractive than not. Max cites, “the more we spend
with another the more they are likely us and we them”.
v Endogamy
One
factor that sometimes considers as thing to make people more attractive is
endogamy. Our color, skin, religion, culture, and social standing are
included.
v Stay around attractive people
Being
close with attractive people might make us more attractive. An unattractive man
who has married with attractive wife is viewed as more attractive, and vice
versa.
v Height
Women
usually like a man who taller than average and taller than themselves. It’s a
basic concept which notices that height is a factor of people being attractive
or not.
v Hair
Strong
and shiny hair is an indicator of youth for women. Hair has a big influence to
the people consider us to be attractive or not. Bad hair and skin is identical
for sickness and being worse. Moreover, baldness for men isn’t found attractive
by some women.
v Body shape
Actually,
the standard of physical attractiveness is very much affected by culture and
era. However nowadays, most men emphasize women who have a good breasts, legs,
bottoms, hourglass figure and good skin. Generally, male like slim female. In
the other hand, women prefer men who have strong upright shoulders, a strong
chin, muscled arms, a trim bottom and strong legs.
v Faces
More
handsome or more beauty signs more attractive we are. That’s why, we find so
many women spend a lot of time and money just for being more beauty and
youthful. Not only for women, make-up and something to do with fashionable also
has influenced men. Psychologists at The University of New Mexico have found
that a female prefers in a male whose body odour is symmetry which has a strong
jaw line, heavy brows, and broad cheekbones.
v Eyes
As
proverb said, “When a women is talking to
you, listen to what she says with her eyes”. It has supported that changing
of our pupil size, our eyes color even size and lashed eyes are things that
the opposite sex considers to assess us whether being attractive or not.
v Glasses
Wearing
glasses both for men or women in early research found that it has an
interesting effect. Men will be look more intelligent, conventional,
hardworking and also serious but less of manly. In another case, women will be assumed as more
intelligent, honest, serious but sometimes just make them look older.
v Breasts
In
this part, Max cites that certainly in the western culture, large breasts are
attractive to men.
v Voices
Women
with a higher pitched voice are more attractive. Moreover, men with deep voice
considers more attractive.
v Skin
By
and large, males prefer a female whose fair skin and females prefer a darker
skin for males.
v Personal Aroma
Body odor has a big effect of attractiveness. Max states that fresh male sweat is
arousing women but only for 20 minutes. Therefore, any perfume with musk would
be considered.
v Pheromones
Pheromone
actually is a term to animal sex message which is related with animal organ
which is called Vomeronasal Organ (VNO). Human also sometime send their non-verbal
messages to another that indicate that they are sexy or ready for sex.
v Legs
Many
women want to make their legs look longer, as longer legs equal greater sex
appeal. In the fact, almost of men prefer women who have long legs indeed.
v Male body language and partnering
There
are six keywords that Max has cited. They are: looking big, looking strong,
powerful protector, gain mate, procreates and gene survival. Men usually don’t
have a large inventory of attraction and flirting gestures compared to women. They
just focus to be masculine. Male uses in preening behavior by brushing back
his hair, straightening his tie or smoothing some other piece of clothing. The
acceptance of female to a male can be found at her response. If she finds him
attractive the female will turn towards him but if not, he receives the ‘cold
shoulder’ treatment and turns to another possible suitor. Eyes especially pupil
dilation and blink rate takes a big part of male attraction.
v Female body language and partnering
Female
has a bigger number of body language armories to make her being more
attractive. There is a lot of self-touching especially her neck. She also makes
herself appear more vulnerable by exposing her neck by stretching it. Moreover,
she also highlights her bust, engorges her lips with blood to make it more red
and fuller, and enlarges her pupils.
v Humor
Both
of women and men like their partners to have a good sense of humor. Not so
clumsy and bored.
v The company you keep
The
people companion also must be considered in a term of attractiveness. Therefore,
Max suggests to increase our attractiveness quotient align our self with
attractive people.
Touching socially acceptable parts of the body would
be a good indication of the desire for intimacy.
